Tag: caregivers
Health is life
When I was an infectious diseases specialist, most of the patients I saw were hospital inpatients but I also saw a few outpatients. They came to see me because of weeks or months of symptoms that their doctors couldn’t figure out and were often worried that they had a mysterious infection that was hard to diagnose. All of these patients had real symptoms – they were extremely tired, had headaches, muscle pains and sore throats. They generally arrived with stacks of medical records – numerous lab tests and notes from other doctors. I also noticed that many of them had serious “real life” problems – bad marriages, difficulties at work, housing problems, sick relatives and more. Perhaps they really did have an infection that I couldn’t find but I also began to wonder if their symptoms were caused by the stress.
My intuition was that many of these patients would benefit from speaking with a social worker, marriage counselor, psychologist, an expert in finding affordable housing or a financial planner. Unfortunately, these services were not part of our health care system. I suspected that many of my patients would get better if we were able to treat the whole patient, not just the symptoms.
Giving thanks
As Thanksgiving approaches, I am thinking a lot about the death of my father in early November 2011. I am thankful that my mother and I had the strength to bring him home to die with dignity, surrounded by his family. I feel blessed that my father lived a long, productive life and that he did not spend his last weeks or months in a hospital bed receiving treatment to prolong his life but not necessarily prolong the life he wanted to live.
Death is not the enemy of life, it is a part of life. As Steve Jobs said in a commencement address at Stanford University in 2005:
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it.
And yet, we often fight it, even when there is little hope of meaningful life.